Dear You,
Yes, you. This is
not a letter to my gentle readers. This is a letter to you- you whom have come at me with your negativity, entitlement and demands. I want to begin by pointing out the obvious. I refer to my
gentle readers in almost every single one of my 130 posts; if you find yourself utterly unable to read my blog with a gentle heart then perhaps it simply is not the blog for you.
This letter is, of course, in response to the negativity you feel compelled to vandalize my comment section with.
"
What's your excuse this time for not posting in almost a month? -.- Sick of checking this page every single day just to see that you haven't updated it!"
My "excuse"? I have none. Why? Because, flat out, I do not need one. Let me be clear as day here, I do not owe you, or anyone, a blog post. Moreover, I certainly do not owe you anything on your schedule.
When you feel as though you cannot continue happily in your life without my frugal input, I offer to you a solution that would solve your negativity here. Sign up to follow my blog. :) Once done each new blog post will be sent directly to your email inbox. You wont risk missing a post and you wont have the dire inconvenience of "checking this page every single day"
I admit, I am being less than gracious. In my defense, though, I have already been gracious. When these comments appeared on a previous blog post
30 Pearls of Wisdom for my Daughter I responded with all the grace I could muster. I am guessing you were the previous negative comment poster, but, alas, I cannot be sure. The safety of an Anonymous posting leaves me just shy of 100% certain.
There was, as I am sure you noticed, a reply to your comment. One that agrees with you.
"I whole-heartedly agree with you...not even an update to say hey something is going on in my life so I wont be posting for a while--we're all just left hanging..."
So here's the thing, you. Thing is, this is MY blog. Which means when *I* started it I did so with a pretty specific vision. My vision was of a blog where I could project fun, positive outlook, humour and cost savings to the world. There are enough critics, skeptics, and theorists out there. I wanted my writing to be an exercise of personal reflection of all the good going on in my world. Then I wanted to turn personal reflection into light hearted writing.
*I* had decided that my blog would
not be a place for me to discuss my personal struggle with heart crushing depression. This would
not be a forum onto which I retold of all the medical ails that have alarmed me and puzzled my doctor. This would
not be the avenue on which I vent about the trials and exhaustion of holding down three jobs (one full time, two part time), or That Guy also working three jobs (one full time, two part time), balancing my marriage, two young children, home school, t ball, cooking classes, bible study and volunteer works.
That doesn't mean those things are not happening, because, in fact, every single one of them is. It means I write with the hope that my
gentle readers will understand that blogging is but one facet of my life. That the very state of depression like mine means that sometimes just the
thought of completing a DIY activity is overwhelming, let alone completing it documenting it and blogging about it. It means that expecting an update for why I'm not blogging is far outside the realm of reasonable.
Of course, if I am to be fair to you (a courtesy you have not extended to me) I must acknowledge that you did not know any of this. You had no way of knowing. But, you see, that was by
design.
So, you, while I thank you for reading Full Time Frugal I hope this post prompts some genuine self reflection and encourages you to step into a lighter, brighter future- free from the tangles of entitlement.
From: Me